I know that wedding planning overwhelm can get the best of you.  What I have noticed, as a Professional Wedding Planning, is regardless of personality type, that all couples can get overwhelmed at some point during their wedding planning. Here are some tips to help you feel less overwhelmed during the wedding planning process.

Put Fun First 

Planning your wedding should be fun and if you are stressing over minor details you need to remember that most people walk away from a wedding talking about how fun it was.  Try not to sweat the small stuff—seriously—people may not remember those amazing table centerpieces you spent hours planning. Take a deep breath. Of course, you can still have those awesome details, but move onto something else less stressful if you are feeling overwhelmed because of them.

Open Communication

Open communication and discussion is key to a marriage but it is also key to wedding planning.  If either of you are stressed from the planning, sit down and take time to discuss it openly. This is going to get everyone on the same page and help you feel less stressed.

Ask for Help

The bottom line is that if you’re overwhelmed, you probably need to ask for help. The best way to get things done is to assign specific tasks to your mom, sister, future mother-in-law, fiancé, or best friend. The people who love you will want to help you, but they might not realize you could use their help–so don’t feel embarrassed–just ask.

If someone asks if you need help and you can tell they mean it, by all means take them up on their offer. Sharing the responsibilities will help you breathe easier.

Be Flexible

I cannot stress the importance of flexibility enough. Many couples these days have precise visions of what they want their wedding to be. It is good to have some idea of what you want, but remaining flexible is key to reducing stress and finding enjoyment in the planning.

Take a Break

Declare wedding-free days and zones. Don’t let the details of wedding planning consume every moment’s thought and every conversation. Stay curious about what is going on in your friends’ lives. Spend time with the person you are marrying without bringing up the wedding. Focusing on things other than the wedding will help keep things in perspective.

At the end of the day you need to remind myself what this wedding is all about…it’s not about the flowers or the dress or an the open bar. Yes, all of those things are nice…but that is not what is important. At the end of the day you get to marry your best friend, your soulmate and the love of your life. So when you get stressed or overwhelmed, take a deep breath and remember what this wedding stands for. This wedding is about the beginning of an exciting new adventure so that you can start the rest of your lives together!

Happy Planning,


Marsha VanArk, Wisconsin Wedding Planner for Distinctly Yours Wedding & Events