So much planning goes into each and every wedding, and they always end up being amazing and memorable days for the couple getting married. It goes without saying that many pour their heart and soul into planning the perfect day, and no detail goes without thought. There are definitely things that some couples have noted, however, as something they have regrets about and would change if they could. If you’re in the depths of wedding planning, here’s what some couples commonly wish they’d done differently, so you can learn from their wedding regrets!

No one wants to have regrets when it comes to their wedding day. After all, it’s one of the most memorable events of your life. (Not to mention all the time and planning that goes into your big day! And, yes, money.) Sometimes your wedding doesn’t go according to plan—but that’s OK because we have some helpful tips on how to have zero regrets on your wedding day.

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Couples #1 Wedding Regret: NOT HAVING A BUDGET

The biggest regret I have heard from couples is that they did not have a budget. I know…it is not the most exciting thing you want to do after getting engaged. The budget is where dreams and reality meet for the first time and force you to prioritize what’s truly important to both of you. There is no “right” amount for a wedding budget; it all depends on you, your family, your priorities and your tastes. What makes this tricky is that there are two of you, two families, two sets of priorities and two sets of tastes and preferences. The most important thing to remember through all of this is that your wedding day is only one day, but your lives together are forever. So, when it comes to wedding planning, this is the one area that deserves the highest priority. If you create a realistic wedding budget, a lot of unnecessary stress can be avoided in the entire wedding planning process and in your marriage to follow.

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Things that will IMPACT your wedding budget the most.

  • Your guest list. 

This adds up! You budgeted a maximum of 100 guests for your dinner reception. Then your families start adding additional guests. Before you know it, you’ve added 50 more people…OK 50 more mouths to feed, no big deal, we can arrange for that. But that actually means you now have 50 more chairs, 50 more chargers, 5 more centerpieces, etc. to add to your budget. It adds up very quickly and makes a huge impact!! 

  • Spending slightly over what you budgeted for…in every category! 

If you find the perfect item/vendor for your wedding but it is over your estimated amount, by all means it’s okay to get it and move forward! BUT, remember to adjust for that amount in another category or two. 

  • Not doing your research. 

Make sure to compare styles of vendors, reviews, and prices. If you are equally interested with two very similar vendors, they both have great reviews, but one charges more money,by all means hire the less expensive one. The point is, do not think that being more expensive automatically=better. Do your research. Book your vendors based on their work, their personality and how you feel about them being part of your day, not solely on price. 

  • Making quick decisions. 

Feel free to explore a little. You need to ask the right questions and read the small print on all contracts and see which options are best and within your budget before making a decision. 

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What you should do to have a NO REGRETS WEDDING

  • Determine what kind of wedding you both want. 

An important first step is talking about your expectations for the wedding with your fiancé(e). Do you envision a large, formal wedding, or a small, intimate one? Will it be local or destination? How many attendants will make up the wedding party? Talk about what your priorities are before you start budgeting—as all of these decisions will affect your bottom line. 

  • Crunch the numbers. 

Sit down with your partner and figure out how much money you are ready, willing, and comfortable spending on your wedding. Are there other people that are going to be contributing financially to your wedding?

  • Don’t forget the small stuff. 

When you create your budget, it is good to have a category set aside for miscellaneous expenses. This will be for the small expenses that you forgot about or never knew you would have. If not accounted for, will cause you to overextend your budget. 

  • Prioritize. 

You and your partner should each pick your top three priorities for the wedding day. Having a list of priorities is just a good idea so that you can focus a little more money, or time, or energy, on the things that are most important to the two of you. For example, a groom that really wanted a band and not a DJ, which in turn, was a much higher price. So they had to adjust in other areas that were less of a priority.

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In whatever budget you decide on, make sure you and your fiance are clear with each other on what is important and stick to it. This in turn will help you prepare for your upcoming financial journey together as husband and wife WITH NO REGRETS.

If you need assistance with your budget, connect us to how we can help.  You don’t have to navigate your wedding planning alone.  Contact us.