Wedding groomNow the time has come to begin wedding planning, but there is one problem. Your fiancé does not seem as thrilled or committed as you thought he would be in helping you plan the wedding.  From my perspective, here are 5 tips to help get your fiancé more involved in the planning of your wedding day.

Include him

The first step is to include him as part of the wedding planning process.  Some brides just tell their fiancé to show up on the wedding day. This is a huge mistake! Beyond the actual event, having a successful marriage requires teamwork. It makes no sense to begin the path towards marriage without having your soul mate working with you throughout the process.

Be clear about your expectations

Communicate what you expect from each other in each phase of the process. This will help your planning tremendously and keep you on the same page.  Begin having these conversations early in the process to avoid stressful moments closer to the wedding day.

Ask questions

Find out from your fiancé what his vision is for the wedding. The more questions you ask, the more you may discover about his tastes and preferences. Once he feels like his ideas are being taken seriously, you will receive more honest input from him.

Make no decision without input from the groom

With the exception of the wedding dress, all major decisions should be made with input from the groom. If you are making decisions regarding the venue, guest list, and wedding colors, without his opinion, this signals to him that you don’t care what he thinks.

Keep things fun

Yes, I know thousands of dollars are involved with planning a wedding, but that doesn’t mean things need to be so serious all the time. 100 percent of your time together should not be wedding talk! There needs to be a balance. When you do set aside time for planning, make sure to relax and enjoy the process.  Make it fun!

 What are some ways that you make wedding planning fun together?  Please share some ideas.  I would love to hear them.  

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Marsha VanArk at Distinctly Yours Wedding & Events